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More than Abundance, Life.

Focus on what is important to you.  Everyday there is a caption on Facebook declaring the intention to attract abundance.  Pictures of stacks Hundred-dollar bills side by side with statements reminding us that money doesn’t grow on trees.  Do you remember that saying?  Remember watching the movie The Secret?  In my business networking group, we must have watched it 5 or 6 times and referred it again and again.

Thoughts are things.

Our thoughts create our reality.

I read the business books, did the networking and put in long hard hours at my industrial business.  I did everything to create a successful business.  Tried to be everything to everybody. We sold products, even tried adding other items to get people in the door so that they could see “What we sold and refer us to people who worked in factories, industrial businesses.  We even sold Cell Phones, remember Nextel, and took FedEx packages for shipping.

Long story short, burn out started and I couldn’t do everything.  The stress was high.  The profits virtually non-existent. So, I invested in a Business Coach, Lorin Beller of Big Fish Nation, she has a coaching business that is worth investing your time and money.  One year.  I committed to one year of coaching and it changed my entire life.  I got rid of everything that wasted time in the business.  I got clear with my priorities.  I designed the life of my dreams, first on paper, then in reality.

The result of a year of getting clear was the removal of 50% of the work and approximately 300% increase in sales. I hear you…. How?  When it dawned on me that the guy who walked in wanting 1 box, didn’t know the size (no one ever knows the size, go figure.) Opted for the one that cost $3.00 or $5.00 and it took 30 minutes.  Yep, let’s say I made $2.00 profit before overhead and my least paid employee cost me $18.00 an hour.  You got it, that’s how you waste time and lose money.  Thank God they weren’t all that way.

Focus.  Focus on what’s Important.

If all you want is money, good luck to you.

However, if what you really want is financial security so that you can pay the mortgage, take that much needed vacation and perhaps send the kids to college that’s a whole different game.

I wanted my business to be extremely profitable so that I could

  • Afford to hire employees, that appreciated working and could be trusted.
  • Learn new things
  • Feel secure financially
  • Spend time with my family
  • Be healthy
  • Have a wonderful home
  • Take time off
  • See the world with my family

Again, I hear you.  You’re right, money doesn’t buy happiness.  But it sure does buy the vacation you’ve always dreamed of.  It alleviates the fear around not being able to pay the monthly mortgage or car payment, health insurance payments, etc.

When we get focused the universe gets creative and the flood gates open to all that you’ve asked for.

What do you want?  What does it feel like, look like, smell like?  Can you taste it, perhaps Filet Mignon rather than Cheerios or Vegan Lasagna with Cashew Cream rather than a plain salad?  Is your vision of the 2019 Range Rover rather than the 2001 Corolla with 300K in mileage. 

Can you see your dream?  Have you even taken the time to think about dreaming?  Or are you in so much pain, “killing yourself” a little everyday at a job to pay the bills?  Creating a living but not quite creating a LIFE?

Do you know what’s holding you back? 

What fear is keeping you stuck? 

I’d like to sit down with you and begin clearing the pain and frustration.  Removing what’s on the surface so that you can go deeper.  I’ve been there and it might be a simple step in the right direction, but, for me, personally, I was dying a little every day.

I knew there was more. 

I wanted more…

But I needed help.  I needed help from an experienced coach and good healers to:

  • Find a starting point
  • Clear emotional issues
  • Teach me how to nourish my body so it could heal
  • Heal my physical body
  • Show me what healthy looks like
  • Create my dream life

Are you ready to create your life, begin the journey of your Soul’s path?  It would be an honor to work with you and help you find your health, wealth and true happiness.

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus. She is a hands-on healer, medical intuitive, Shaman, Medium and Spiritually Guided Coach as well as being an Advanced Soul Coach(R), Adv. Past Life Coach(R) & Holographic Sound Healer. Spirit of the Lotus is in Columbia CT.  Appointments can be made by calling 860-709-3903.

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Who Do You Want To Be?

Are you living the life you dreamed of? Are you allowing yourself to be the best version of yourself, you can be? Truly?  Or are you being the version of yourself that seems to please those around you?  Loved ones, friends, co-workers? Assuming you can even tell what, they want you to be or how they want you to act.  Do they even know?  Do they know that if they truly wanted what was best for you, it would be best for them as well?

I know, it sounds like I’m talking around in circles, but what I know, for sure, is that when I allow myself to be open and honest, I am happier.  I find myself allowing those around me to be their best version of themselves as well.

We all had the conversation at some point with parents wanting us to be the proverbial doctor, lawyer or some such genius. Go to school, go to college, be all you can be, right?  But, what did you want? Did you want to back pack across Europe, go to Art School, become a greeter at Walmart?  And our friends, loved ones, did they want you to be you or the version of the fantasy?

I remember the conversation, “you seem so miserable, so unhappy, why do you want to stay in a relationship that makes you so unhappy?”  The reply was, “that’s your opinion”.  True, it was my opinion.  It was the opinion I came to after years of hearing complaints, being told I was wrong, I was too bold, too quiet, too successful, to loud, etc., etc.  The real questions are: 

  • Do you know who you are?  Truly? 
  • Who do you want to be? 
  • What do you want to do?

I’ve been there.  Are you there now?  Would you like someone to talk to, to help you thru the transition and perhaps clean up and clear out the perpetual people pleaser that is no longer working for you but has truly become your go to reality? 

Even more concerning to me, are you living a life that’s abusive?  Are you being verbally and emotionally abused?  Were you abused as a child and find yourself drawn to or attracting the same type of relationship, perhaps so much so that you begin believing there is something wrong with you?

Rant alert….No one ever deserves to be abused.  There is no reason, no cause great enough, or worry some enough to make abuse okay.  None what so ever.

If your life seems to be a revolving door of the same thing again and again, let’s get to the root, the one thing that needs to be unearthed, honored, explored, dissolved and released.  There is a root cause.  There’s something deep, missing and it’s trying to be healed.  Once its healed you will feel amazing.  You will feel free.  And, best thing, you will never attract that type of person or situation again.

Yep, I hear the indignation from the one of you that is screaming, angry and saying…..I didn’t attract them.  You can’t blame me.  To that I say, the universe is a spectacular thing, it knows what you came here to learn, to clear, to be a part of in your journey.  Until you get it, clear it and are able to move on, the whole world is your stage and the universe is the director, everyone in your life is playing their part magnificently.  Once its cleared, everything shifts.  The world, it looks different, feels different, everyone goes their own way and you……your journey, begins another phase.

Who do you want to be? It would be an honor to speed up this process for you.   Are you ready?  Call me, I can help.

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus. She is a hands-on healer, medical intuitive, Shaman, Medium and Spiritually Guided Coach as well as being an Advanced Soul Coach(R), Adv. Past Life Coach(R) & Holographic Sound Healer. Spirit of the Lotus is in Columbia CT.  Appointments can be made by calling 860-709-3903.

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Ancient Healing Wisdom

Ancient Healing wisdom has been handed down from generation to generation.  This wisdom is quiet, its exciting and sometimes its scary.  How many people have opted for the quick fix of Western Medicine when Energy Medicine is available?  Do those people who reach for an aspirin because their body hurts even know there’s another option?

I didn’t.  My mom might have at one time, I remember her telling tales of collecting clean cobwebs for a serious cut, while visiting Great Grand mom in Maine.  She was young then and even when I was young they still didn’t have electricity or running water, they used an out house and survived with many of the old ways.

My mom, when I was young, was in a lot of pain.  I remember once, seeing her crawl from her bed to the bathroom, her back not strong enough to allow her to walk.  She most days survived with many doses of Excedrin, though out the day and Excedrin PM to drift off to sleep.  When I was older, she spent days in the hospital with severe stomach bleeds and near death, would lay in the hospital trying to get stronger.

Yes, I remember the marvel of TV dinners, Extra Strength Aspirin, Wonder Bread and Cigarettes.  Yes, I remember, the argument between Mom & Dad, should Mom work and bring in the extra income so they could feel financially more secure and the opposing argument of, isn’t he doing enough to support the family?  That age-old question turn drama.

Is that when Western medicine became more about a quick fix and less about having a healthy, happy Life?

Are you at that point in your life?  The place where the mortgage and car payment are controlling your life and the need to work.  That place where your body is starting to send you messages, or perhaps like me, your body isn’t sending messages but rather the 2 x 4 is creating pain so stark you can’t ignore it.

I remember swallowing 3 extra strength Excedrin, with 2 Midol every 3 hours, just trying to get thru the work day.  I was following in the steps of my parents, until someone kindly introduced me to another way.

I could barely walk, both of my parents had passed but my business was successful and I felt successful, when I wasn’t afraid, that I too, would die young and in pain every day.

As I began to learn the ways of the wisdom keepers, the Eastern Medicine philosophies and the Soul-searching depths of me, I slowly became conscious.  I began to feel, see and learn alternative ways of healing, energy medicine and the medicine of real nourishment.  Funny, or perhaps at the time I had no humor but, I began to heal and as I got healthier, I began to feel that much more.  More awareness, more pain, more consciousness.  What I mean is that, as I healed my awareness showed me that less and less could get my attention.  Remember, when we are unconscious, we are ultimately ignoring all the signals, all the signs our body is trying to use to get our attention.  Once awareness is present, you no longer need a 2 x 4 to get your attention.  That said, there is a tipping point when your body truly begins to feel better, then, feel good and one day you catch yourself laughing, just for the joy of it.

Those days of healing and learning what my body needed to heal and then to thrive was such a blessing and sometimes yes, frustrating as well.

My excitement was palpable.  I wanted to share everything with everyone, but I didn’t even have the vocabulary. 

Days turned to months and months to years.  I went from patient, to student and then to practitioner.  The excitement continued to be almost overwhelming, the miracles were common weekly or monthly moments being witnessed.  I was surrounding myself with people who knew so much more than I, but, still my excitement was so strong I wanted the soap box to be strapped to my feet so I could stay standing, stay shouting to all, to anyone who would listen and those that would let me practice, Oh My God, I was in heaven.  I would go to that place, that meditative state where everything falls away and I could only feel the person on the treatment table.  I dissolved, my eyes closed and I was on the surface, I was inside, I could hear and feel and see.  My client sometimes aware, sometimes not, would always have a feeling of getting lighter, better, less pain and I wanted to do it again and again.

But, once again, I remembered, Ancient Wisdom must be passed down, I had to listen.  Continue to listen, continue to absorb the wisdom, the knowledge. 

Yes, I was a natural, each class a reminder of the natural wisdom within, but still I had to listen.  I wanted to absorb more, learn more, teach what I’d learned and absorb all I could from those who knew more.

I traveled to the classes, I searched for the teachers, I paid a lot to learn, my now ex- was not happy at the cost of my learning or the time I took, being away from my business to continue learning.  I continue to joke that I could have a PHD if you could buy one, the money I spent to learn being a Lot.

Then as I began to share all that I’d learned, as I began Spirit of the Lotus and my healing practice, my senses continued to expand.  The shamanism expanded my senses even further.  Soul Coaching® and Past Life Journey® and again with Advanced really expanded my senses until my intuitive senses were expanding.  However, in the very beginning, it was not easy to know the difference between Good Energies such as Angels verses lower energies of those stuck in this plane and not so helpful, sometimes even just disruptive or trickster energies here to take your attention off the really deep wisdom.  However, with years of practice and safe places to talk and learn, I was truly able to hone my intuitive skills and let me say, I continue to really thrive on learning, so I get upset when disruptive energies try to interrupt the Wisdom Keepers who are trying to teach.  I have a deep respect for those that have been doing and using this energy and helping teach for more than my 15-18 years.  I will be there with my sage and clearing tools, ready to learn, ready to demand the disruptive energies find their way home. And I will continue to teach and help people heal, one on one or in groups.  AHo.

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus. She is a hands-on healer, medical intuitive, Shaman, Medium and Spiritually Guided Coach as well as being an Advanced Soul Coach(R), Adv. Past Life Coach(R) & Holographic Sound Healer. Spirit of the Lotus is in Columbia CT.  Appointments can be made by calling 860-709-3903.

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Distractions

I wonder at the countless ways I can find to distract myself from the very things I say are so important to me. I remember thinking about all the time I would have once I was “retired”. Thank you very much universe for allowing me early retirement, because it looks like I will need many years of learning how to stop…..stop being distracted by so much that means so little. Patterns, habits whatever name is currently popular for all the time and ways I am wasting time. Is it a waste? Only I know for sure….I am the only one judging me, everyone else is far too busy to even notice.
I thought, I will give myself time.
What time, where did it go, how did I use it? What did I learn, contribute, do? I catch myself chuckling.
I read, I wasted my time watching Hallmark and Netflix I searched Facebook for scraps of wisdom and comedy, I even napped, rested, rejuvenated my being. How many ways can I find to distract myself? Apparently, many ways, very few that add to my health and wellbeing. Funny, though, when I was working full time, full time times 2, I still had the time to be distracted, even while contemplating the time I would have in the future to have the time I was dreaming of. Being distracted can be another full time job. If I was not distracted, how would I be focused? On what would I be focused? Great question.
If you were not distracted, what would you be focused on? Could you, perhaps find the time now to focus? I’d suggest that rather than dreaming of a time in the future, when you will have the time, to focus rather than dreaming on the future….because one never knows just how good the distractions will be in the future.
Be focused,
Be Well,
Be Love

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Hindsight the Greatest Gift

How many times can you look back and see that some of your greatest gifts were found after a time of struggle? We find a mentor, a teacher or a way of coping that can turn us in a direction that becomes a life calling, a lifting of our soul in ways we could have never imagined.

For me personally it was my brokenness. The pain my body felt became the impetus to learning. I searched for a remedy for the pain. The medical model of doctors and X rays and medication, thank god, could not find a solution to the pain I was feeling, so I continued to look, to complain, to reach out for help and a solution.

I was willing to try just about anything…. Like many of my clients, I found myself doubting myself, doubting the need to feel better, hearing again and again, its just the aging process get used to it. We (the doctor) do not see anything of concern, among some of the nicer ways of turning away a patient.

I remember the person I worked with said “its a good thing I worked with you before I looked at the X rays and test results.” Having worked with you I could see there was an issue, a physical issue that could not be faked, even though I can not see proof of the damage with the tests. The tests look fine. But….having worked with you, I can see it, feel it and will work to heal it.

My symptom was a problem and pain when walking, and movement was restricted, to the point that I would often cry out in pain with the simplest of motion. It was embarrassing, it even became an excuse to put distance in my relationship, from both sides. What I found though was almost unbelievable. My range of motion issue, my lack of movement, my pain, was not “just” physical, it was also emotional. All this was compounded by recent loses of my mom to cancer and my dad two years later to a severe fall after surviving Cancer 18 years prior, to a step mother who died one year later because after being told she would die if she began smoking again….picked up a cigarette and didn’t stop smoking until she was no longer with us. Fear and sadness filled my being even as I filled my heart with love of my son, love of the family still with me, love and encouragement of friends. Even a thriving business couldn’t obliterate the feelings of loss, the feelings of fear, afraid of walking the same path.

But, thankfully, I took the time for me. I took the time and spent the money to heal even when I could not see the results, yet.

Today, I can and do freely admit out loud many times a week, perhaps a day somedays, that the gift of that pain, that suffering and disappointment was to introduce me to a healing modality that I continue to use on a daily basis, for myself and for my clients. That search, brought me learning. That search opened doors to teachers, modalities and remembrance of skills within yet uncovered. In hindsight, I can see without the pain I would never have found my gift as a healer, intuitive and teacher.

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus. She is a hands on healer, medical intuitive, Shaman, Medium and Spiritually Guided Coach as well as being an Advanced Soul Coach(R), Adv. Past Life Coach(R) & Holographic Sound Healer. 00

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Conflict & Chaos

I notice that people in general are extremely aware of everything they do not like, from how to fold the laundry to how we raise our children. It seems we are so focused on what we want made better, that we forget to notice all the things that make our lives amazing. We pick one thing as proof of lack and the focus becomes laser accurate, the grade to our happiness.

The problem with proving our lack or inaccuracy of thought is being in a space of inadequacy. However, rather than perpetuate growth and learning, it pushes us away. Like the parent who’s child gets a B in a difficult class, the parent, rather than congratulating, scolds the child for the lack of an A. How does that child feel? Encouraged? Or Shamed?

Why do so many believe that a relationship can get even better if we constantly point out each others faults? Constantly demanding the other meld to a required behavior rather than appreciating the effort?

Pointing out someone’s faults creates an energy that is weak and debilitating. Appreciation of our strengths and verbally acknowledging our courage enhances our energy and creates room for expansion.

Relationships can be enhanced with the continued learning of communication skills. For example my favorite is: I feel ….. when I hear …. rather than the common, You make me…. . or I feel ….. when I see this behavior…… and then there is a mirroring back of the words so that the person knows you’ve actually heard what they’ve said. Accusations put the accused into a space of needing to justify, prove or flee. If there is a behavior that you really want to see, I’d encourage a kindly worded suggestion with clear instruction. Then when your request is taken and used a healthy dose of gratitude will only encourage this to continue.

We all have habits and ways of living that we’ve had our entire life. Some learned from the homes of our youth, others found as we grew. Some of our current habits are even those that we began in rebellion of the strict requirements of our youth. Many we do without thought and a suggestion to make our tasks easier is welcome. A demand with degrading comment of slovenly behavior, not so much….

One of the greatest exercises I was tasked to take, was of daily gratitude. Then more specifically, to find specific things, ways, habits, behaviors that I appreciated in a friend or family member. This, I admit, was not as easy as I thought it should be. I too, was and sometimes continue to be focused on what I don’t like rather than what I do like. Shifting to a higher vibration, a higher consciousness does the heart and relationship good….

Think about it, will you?

Hugs

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus. She is a hands on healer, medical intuitive, Shaman, Medium and Spiritually Guided Coach as well as being an Advanced Soul Coach(R), Adv. Past Life Coach(R) & Holographic Sound Healer.

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Healing Me with Time

I have been struggling with my morning routine, especially since the true on set of cold winter weather. I find myself wanting to leisurely enjoy my morning moments in the warmth of my blankets, not wanting to place my feet on the floor of my cold room. My room 62 degrees, preferring blankets to warm air, preferring blankets to the cost of oil, perhaps more like it. Perhaps loving the blankets because if I get up, my day has begun as well as the excuses I create for not doing, doing what?

How do I bring back the routine of yoga? How do I substitute my distractions with the routines that will nourish my soul? Can I put down my cell phone? Can I delay my coffee or even exchange it for water?

I gave myself a year….

I said to me…. Robin, you deserve the time to rest, to rejuvenate, to find out who you are.

Who am I? Who am I now that I am not the mother of a young child? Who am I now that I am not a wife? Who am I now that I am ? Who am I over 50? Who am I, now that I do not own the first business that I created? Who am I in the eyes of those who see me? Who am I now that I admit that I am a healer, if only part time while I explore? Who am I now, that I can be anything I choose?

It’s been 8 months, since my obligations of work were no longer. Four years since I decided to be single. I have witnessed within me transformations that are minor and those that are extreme. I have tried to continue moving and working and filling every moment in an effort to avoid feeling. This seemed to work until I became sick. Sick enough that I had to stop moving, I had to stop working and filling my moments, enough so that I could feel. Oh dear God, I have to admit that feeling is one of the scariest things I have been forced to do for myself. How is it I can feel the pain of others and use it to help them heal, in yet, feeling my own pain was overwhelming? I know intellectually and thru my healing arts that there can be a payoff for illness. My payoff was forced by the universe to become intimately aware of me. I felt fear that I never knew could over take me so completely. I have felt grief so deeply I wondered if it would stop. I felt alone. I felt abandoned. I was and sometimes still am afraid.

I wanted desperately to have a relationship. The perfect love life to sustain and combat the fear. I believe deep down, somewhere I had convinced myself that if someone wanted me, accepted me, held me and told me everything would be perfect, that I would know that everything I did, the choices I made would be the right ones. They would ultimately prove that I was right.

I was lucky, of course the verdict is still out, I did not get that perfect relationship. I did not get swept off my feet and rescued or re-assured. What I got was time. What I received was the gift of being alone, even though forced, alone enough so that today I see….hey, I’m enjoying this moment. I am enjoying choosing exactly what I want to do or to do nothing.

I began seeing this pattern a few months ago. I wondered to myself and out loud to a few dear friends….is it possible the universe if forcing me to take the time? Then as I spoke to a dear friend just a day or two ago I caught myself saying….If I had jumped into a relationship earlier it would have been out of fear….fear of being alone more than out of love. But now, now that I am beginning to see me and learn the “who is Robin” answers. Now I know that I will be going into a relationship whole, going into it from a place of love rather than need. And that is huge…..

Oh, don’t worry, I know I still have a lot to learn…. I’m not taking that leap, yet. Oh lord, but at some point I pray the universe deems me ready and gives me that opportunity.

Hugs!!

Robin is the founder of Spirit of the Lotus, she works with individuals as a Shaman, a healer and a medical intuitive as well as a Reiki Master Teacher and Soul Coach(R) just to mention a few of her credentials.

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Reminded by the Wind

It’s Saturday morning and the wind sounds as though it will blow my home off it’s foundation. As I listen, I ask for gentleness from the power of the wind, I ask for strength against the buffering upon the walls and windows but most of all I ask for kindness and a warm heart felt prayer for everyone who is homeless and cold.

I am reminded by the sound of the wind that I am safe. I am grateful that I have a home and the means to afford it. I have a room full of lush green plants and a warm cup of coffee sweetened with honey. I am home. Thank you God.

I am reminded by the wind, that I am so very fortunate to have a safe place. A place to work, a place to create and a place to love and the precious moments to appreciate it. The precious time to be grateful for my freedom. The little things, that I could just take for granted, the phone call, the warmth of a shower, the watering of my plants. One of my clients noted that I had so many new trees as she removed her coat. I looked at them and said yes….I bought several for $2 and $4 each after the Christmas Holiday, excited that just a few days earlier they were priced at $20 and sold as gifts for Christmas. Yes, they were perfect to add to my collection of green in the sunshine filled room. My sanctuary in the wind.

What are you grateful for? Do you have the time, to take stock of all your fortunate to have? Do you breath it in or just work until you’re so drained you wonder why? Have you created the sanctuary that you deserve? Are you living the life you could only imagine? How could it be improved?

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